is Acceptance. From Alcoholic’s Anonymous 4th Edition p. 417;
“And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, situation — some fact of my life — unacceptable to me.
And I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake.
Until I could accept my alcoholism (addictions), I could not stay sober (clean); Unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy.
I need to concentrate not so much on what (I believe and am probably wrong about) needs to be changed in the world, as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.”
And in my actions, words, thoughts, etc.
But here is something important I have come to understand;
Acceptance is NOT submission! It is not giving up or being ok with things.
It is recognizing and acknowledging what is real and then deciding what to do about it.
Acceptance only applies to the current moment.
The very next moment, as I change the things I can control, and I can only control myself, things will be different.
Better or worse is unknown, but with faith, (acting in spite of lack of belief?) things will be better.
Today I choose to see things as they really are and change myself as needed to improve my life.